There are, I believe, three great traits above all others that a human being can possess. These traits are Initiative, Passion, and Charisma. Every human possesses at least one of these traits in abundance, and some possess more than one. I, for example, have an abundance of Passion, but I lack both Initiative and Charisma. The Runner is an example of someone blessed with Initiative, while the Mediator possesses Charisma. Some people possess a combination of two of these traits, and, in incredibly rare circumstances, the world bares forth an individual with all three. These are the people who end up becoming the most influential people in the world. They are the ones who often will go so far as to change the course of history. We will discuss these people later, however. For now, we discuss the first of the three great traits: Initiative.
For my whole life, I have heard the phrase: "Take Initiative."
I’ll be honest with you. I have never been entirely sure what that means until recently. According to various dictionaries, Initiative is the ability to act and make decisions without help. The true definition lies deeper than this, however, or else it wouldn’t be one of the great traits.
Many people, including myself, have a problem with rejection. No, not the type of rejection that occurs frequently between members of opposite genders, although I suppose that sort of rejection would be part of it. The rejection I refer to is simply the rejection that occurs whenever someone says no.
"Mom, can I have a cookie?"
"No."
"Uncle Jerry, can I play on the Super Nintendo?"
"No."
"Dad, can you take me to Toys R’ Us?"
"No."
So many of us, from a very young age, learn of rejection, and we don’t enjoy it. Sometimes, the reaction to this is to throw a tantrum, as all of us have at some point in our lives. However, after a while, some of us learn to simply stop asking, for fear having the unpleasant experience of being rejected, and looking like a fool.
Further on in life, this has implications. We may fear asking our friends to come over, in case they say no. We may fear organization, lest we do it incorrectly and a superior disapprove. We are afraid of asking questions of strangers, lest they think of us as stupid. I confess that I personally have a modest fear of calling stores, companies, and the like and asking for something as trivial as their business hours. It really is a cripple, and one which I have never been able to escape.
The great paradox associated with this trait is that Initiative is one’s ability to accomplish tasks alone, and yet the tasks we accomplish alone tend to involve other people, because no one is entirely independant. Because of this, those who have initiative tend to be better at dealing with people than those without.
These people are able to coordinate very well. Take the example of a celebration. Someone with abundant Initiative could organize the entire thing single handedly. They could call their aquaintances and invite them, confirm guest lists, decide on events, phone up for reservations, and coordinate designated drivers, all without breaking a sweat.
Some of us are simply incapable of doing that.
But not always.
During this week, I have taken it upon myself to show Initiative. Why? Well, there is nothing more motivational than desperation and a lack of time, after all. I can say that I have seen a surprising amount of success with this experiment, and so I encourage the rest of you now to attempt to do the same. Initiative is the first of the three great traits. Use it well, my friends.