Nothing’s quite as good as hanging out with old friends, is it?

See, the thing about old friends is that over the course of the years you’ve known each other, they’ve accepted you for who you are. You don’t have to guard yourself around them. You don’t have to be careful lest you say something that will offend them. You can be yourself, and there’s nothing more liberating than that.

You always know where you stand with old friends. There’s no wondering about whether or not you two are close enough for you to ask a very personal question or share a sacred secret. You can tell them just about anything. You can share your feelings, your vulnerabilities, your fantasies, and your regrets without fear. With new friends you have to watch what you say. You don’t want to get too deep or depressing with someone you’ve just met or you risk scaring them off.

And you can actually fight with old friends. That may not sound like a positive point, but hear me out. If you have a serious argument with someone who you met five days ago, odds are you’ve just burned that relationship to the ground. New friendships, while exciting, are exceedingly fragile. You can trash one in a couple of moments if you’re not careful. But a friendship that’s been forged and solidified over years is by definition a strong one. True, old friends do fall out from time to time, but it takes a truly egregious transgression by one (or both) parties to take down a decade-long friendship. Even a serious argument between old friends will end in forgiveness most of the time.

And with old friends, the friendship itself becomes an object of enjoyment. With old friends you can spend three hours doing absolutely nothing but reminisce about old times, and it still feels like three hours well spent. Try that with new friends and you’ll run out of material within five minutes.

 

Old friends are familiar. They’re warm and comforting.

New friends are exciting. They’re a breath of fresh air.

If you’re lucky enough to have a mix of both, enjoy them and never take them for granted.

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